Just hold them extra tight while you can…..
This weeks blog was meant to be about slings and breastfeeding! But actually I need to just write some honest words about holding your baby close. It’s not going to be long, just a few words that I need to write down.
Throughout the years of writing this blog I have spoken about my personal journey in motherhood, and right now I guess it’s a difficult transition of letting go that little bit more.
I’ve been led in bed thinking about how tough it was to share my bed for so long with Jake when he was a baby and toddler, quite often feeling touched out. If only I knew that actually I should have just embraced each moment more because now it’s a battle to keep him home long enough to eat his dinner!
All the work we put in when they are small comes down to them becoming such independent beings but as mothers and fathers it’s tough to let go and just let them grow as little people.
All we want is to know we are still loved; I think this is the trickiest bit.
I guess all parents go through this. Our unconditional love and efforts don’t change but the emotional side of it does. We are now doing all we did before but with alittle less love in return.
My thoughts continuously go to whether all parents that have adults as children have the same thoughts……..?!
I look at Jake and I’m so very pleased with who he is and watching him grow into his own independent person. I guess it’s just a tough inner battle for me still being the parent I want to be for someone who’s needs have massively changed.
Throughout parenthood we adapt and learn as we go and this is another adaption that I’m dealing with right now.
So maybe hold on a little tighter when they are small, capture the smell of their hair and skin. Remind yourself how soft their skin used to be. On the days when you feel a bit overwhelmed, just remember that when they are grown up and you are fighting for just a minute of their time, you will always look back and be truly grateful for each and every moment you spent holding them.
Thank you for reading this, being able to reflect on motherhood is so important, and so is honesty. For all of us to share our experiences means that we are hopefully making it slightly easier for the next mum that comes along.
I’m sending all you mummies that extra bit of love this week x
